I spent three months on dating apps before I realized I was optimizing for the wrong things. Swipe right on the guy with the dog photo. Swipe left on the shirtless bathroom selfie. Send a witty opener. Wait for a response that never comes or, worse, one that does but leads absolutely nowhere. The whole cycle felt less like dating and more like a second job I wasn’t getting paid for.
Here’s what nobody tells you about modern dating apps: they’re designed to keep you using them, not to actually help you connect with anyone meaningful. The average woman gets hundreds of matches, which sounds great until you realize 90% of those matches send